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Four tips for children/youth experiencing bullying

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1. Be assertive – tell the bully to stop

Children who bully thrive on insecurities and act on these by being mean to people. Sometimes, they are scared themselves and don’t want to get into trouble. They often choose to pick on children who they think will not stand up to them. Review the basics of assertiveness versus aggressiveness with your child.

2. Send for help

Children should be encouraged to ask an adult, sibling or friend for help if they feel they are not able to deal with the situation on their own. They may need to report bullying more than once. Tell your child it takes courage to tell someone, and validate and reinforce them for doing the right thing in seeking help.

3. Ask someone else to play

Having just one friend reduces the risk of your child being targeted. Speak to your child about making and keeping friends, and help them identify one or two children they might be able to approach to play with at recess or lunch. You should also encourage your child to play near an adult, or be aware of the location of adults who can help.

4. Ignore

Bullies often are reinforced by reactions. If your child can, encourage them to ignore the bully and try to do something else. 

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Source: information for this blog post was sourced from Stop Now And Plan (SNAP), our award-winning children’s mental health program. For more information, visit stopnowandplan.com.